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Teens Gone Grateful
Adolescence tends to involve comparing oneself to others and having a heightened desire to fit in, which often means a lot of "I want's" coming from your teen. Teens do not always know how to see and appreciate the good, especially when they are so focused on getting what they need or want in order to feel like they belong (which is age appropriate). For e.g. this could mean wanting the latest technology, the most popular designer purse, or one more color of the expensive sneakers you've bought for them. It's a constant asking for more and it doesn't have to be about material things either. It could be asking to stay out past 11:00 pm because "all their friends do" or about one more ride to the mall after you've already been their "uber" driver all day.
Although social media is meant to be social, informative and fun, it's no secret that social media can have a negative influence on our days and our mental health. It can create a false sense of reality, induce stress, lead to insecurities, and cause "FOMO," or the fear of missing out. The pressures that stem from social media can manifest in social anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, eating disorders and so on. While the pressure can and likely does affect everyone in some way, it can be especially challenging for teens. Teenagers are at a period in their lives in which there is increased pressure to fit in, and the demands of society are especially overcoming, overbearing and difficult to manage - they are often felt more harshly and heavily.
Living in the moment could be difficult when it feels like the weight of the world has created a home on your shoulders. It is hard to appreciate something good or enjoy yourself even for a little bit when your mind is consumed by your lengthy to-do list or an unbearable amount of anxiety. However, it is extremely important to dissociate from the stress and the mess throughout your days. Leaving little time for joy is only going to magnify everything and make it all seem so much worse and paralyzing. It will make the tough moments more difficult to get through. Here are some tips on how to live in the moment regardless of what is going on around you.
Ah, summertime...when the living is easy! Then you blink and suddenly it's back to school time. Camp ends, the late night pool parties and bedtime-less nights come to a halt, and real life, also known as school, kicks back in. A change in any schedule that you've become so used to is a difficult adjustment, so this one is particularly tough. Here are some tips for parents on how to gently ease back into the school schedule.
Success is a funny thing - we all have such different lives, circumstances, talents, weaknesses, demographics, etc., yet we all tend to associate success with the same meaning or "achievement:" making or having a lot of money - typically by having climbed the corporate ladder and/or obtaining a well-paying, prestigious job. While these things are great, they are not the end all be all towards "being successful." A person is not defined by one accomplishment or trait, and success does not have to be either.....
Parenting In The Tech Age: Social Media And Your Kids
Is your son or daughter texting more than speaking? Are you concerned with what apps they are downloading? You are not alone. Even though many parents pay for their child's cell phone bill, they often do not know what the phone is being used for. While there are numerous benefits to applications available on phones, there are also dangers to using certain apps that teens are not aware of......
Oftentimes in the social work or mental health field you will hear the term "at risk" to describe clients, specifically youth. This term means that something in this child's environment or background is putting him or her at an increased risk for negative effects (e.g. dropping out of school to experiencing anxiety). In reality, anyone, regardless of age, can be in a position where your circumstance puts you at risk for something negative, but just because you are at risk for something does not mean it's a guarantee…you can make efforts to beat the odds.....
When something is really good, we tend to hold onto it for dear life, especially when it comes to relationships. People are hardwired to desire human connection, so most can agree that they prefer to be in a relationship over being single. It feels like you've hit the jackpot when you find someone who you are compatible with, who you like and who likes you back. Because of how happy you are about this rare finding, and how wonderful things are in the beginning or maybe for a while, when the relationship goes sour, it is easy to try and convince yourself that this person is right for you....
When a cut is left open and is unprotected by a Band Aid, it is at risk of getting hurt by the outside world. Just the same, when people are open and unprotected by a guard or wall that they put up, they are at risk of getting hurt. However, while staying inside your house and on your couch at all times pretty much guarantees that you won't get hurt, it also guarantees that you won't experience anything great either...
Valentine's Day is likely one of the most simultaneously loved and disliked holiday. It brings joy and excitement for some and sadness and angst for others. Perhaps where it all went wrong, is when someone spread the false message that Valentine's Day meant celebrating your significant other. We are free to create our own definitions of holidays, as well as our own traditions. Valentine's Day is meant for celebrating your loved ones and in whatever way you choose to do so. That could mean your husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, best friends, children or other family members etc. If you love them, you can celebrate them! And please let's not forget about ourselves! Here are some tips on how to celebrate Valentine's Day your way...
We are so often caught up in all that we don't have. It is so easy to look at others and wish that we had their bodies, their relationships, their money to go on fancy vacations and buy fancy things, etc. It is more than fair to want things in life, but it is also important to remember that the grass isn't always greener, and that your grass is probably pretty great. We have no idea what's going on in other people's lives. The person who seems to have it all may be going through something that you wouldn't trade all of your problems for.
Stress management posts never go out of style...because unfortunately, stress never goes out of style (though we all know that it should). It seems like there is always something stressing us out--from the big things like work, family, relationships, health, and money, to the smaller things (that usually still feel big!) like finding time for doctors appointments, feeling the nagging need to go to the gym, that terrifying long to-do list, the fight with your friend or that breakout that showed up just in time for school pictures.
As summer wraps up, end-of-summer-sadness begin to kick in.and kids may start to have some anxiety since starting school again is just around the corner. Going back to school can be a rough transition after they've enjoyed a carefree, fun-filled summer. After all of that enjoyment and freedom, it is understandable that they would have some stress and anxiety knowing that what's coming is homework and earlier bedtimes. A rough, stress-inducing time for kids typically can mean a rough, stress-inducing time for parents, so here are some ways to ease this transition for everyone:
Preventing (or at least minimizing) Those Post Vacation Blues
You count down the days and months in advance until you're finally on that summer vacation--your escape from the crazy, stressful, demanding world that we call life. While life is also filled with laughter and beauty, sometimes you just need some time away--away from people, even the ones you love, away from work, away from busy city or suburban life, away from the constant text messages and emails that flood your phone morning through night, away frorm cleaning and cooking, worrying about money, etc. Sometimes you just need a change and a break from everything.
You have a thousand things to do, all at once, not even including the long overdue manicure, a trip to the gym that you're paying way too much for considering you barely have time to attend, or the lunch you promised your friend you would make it to this time after cancelling last week and the week before. Your sleeping is compromised because something's gotta give, and you are eating fast food because who has the time to cook? There just aren't enough hours in the day, and you are starting to feel as though you are losing your mind. How do you handle it all without falling apart at the seams?
School's out for summer!! If you're a student, almost nothing feels as good as this does. If you're a parent, you probably have some mixed feelings. On one hand, this means more family time. You can get a Wednesday morning pedicure with your daughter or go to a Monday night movie with your son. You can eat dinner as a family because no one has practice for the school play. It is also likely to mean that your kids are less stressed out from school...it's always nice to see your child care-free and playing outside rather than locked in his room doing math homework all night. Perhaps summer even means vacations and day trips.
Tis the season for that good ol' spring cleaning that everybody talks about. But where do you start? And what kind of cleaning are we talking about? I'm sure we all love the feeling of a super clean house, but imagine if we could have a super clean head and heart too. I say, let's spring clean it all. A new season is the perfect time for fresh starts.
I worked with a young adult who accepted her first job offer after graduation because she felt intense pressure from family members and needed an income, rather than because she felt confident it was the right opportunity for her. In the midst of planning a wedding and moving, she is now unhappy with that position, but feels pressure from family to stick it out until after the wedding, instead of quitting or seeking a new job.
A perk of marriage: you no longer have to date! A perk of divorce: you get to date! Hmm...how can that be? But it’s true. Divorce is typically not in the plan, which of course can throw you for a loop. While the thought of dating after divorce can be terrifying and confusing (how on earth do I do this?!), it can also be such an exciting new chapter of your life.
A New Way To Valentines Day Last I've heard, Valentine's Day is a day to celebrate your loved ones, (although we should of course always be grateful for the wonderful people in our lives). As far as I am concerned, loved ones is an umbrella term--this could mean family, friends, teachers; really anyone who we care about--not just significant others.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year again! Yet, you are feeling stressed out and anxious. How can such a happy time bring so much angst?! As beautiful and joyous as this time of year is, it can also bring a lot of these not-so beautiful and joyous emotions.
Give The Gift Of Mental Health This Holiday Season
So at this point in the year, you “should” be full of joy and happiness, shopping for holiday gifts and preparing for family meals. But, regardless of the season, your depression or mental illness is getting in the way of you feeling in the mood to celebrate.
When you are asked what Thanksgiving means to you, 9 times out of 10 the response is something to the effect of a day to recognize and be grateful for all of your blessings in life. Not too hard of a question…giving thanks, it’s in the name! But when that third Thursday of November comes and goes, what is your perspective on what Thanksgiving means for the upcoming time of year?
"Since it is the end of the summer you've probably seen thousands of "back to school" commercials by now. This could elicit either very positive, very negative, or indifferent feelings for you and your children. In the case that you or..."
"It is exciting and comforting for college students to return home for the summer. Classes are over, and you have three months to enjoy spending time with your friends that you haven’t seen much of all year. ..."
"With spring finally in full bloom, graduation season is upon us! If you are preparing to graduate from college or graduate school, there are probably hundreds of thoughts flying through your head everyday leading up to your commencement ceremony and in the few months (or years) that follow..."
"With Mother’s Day quickly approaching, many moms may be expecting little tokens of appreciation from their children – flowers, a handmade card, maybe a piece of jewelry. While these gifts are thoughtful and very much cherished, let’s be honest..."
"Whether you’ve been married for 10 months or 10 years, your marriage could be falling into a rut, in desperate need of passion and happiness. Take a moment right now to pause the everyday routine and check in with your marriage..."
"Now that it is officially summer and school is out, it seems like the perfect time to share with you my Parents’ Guide to Surviving the Summer. Unless you are going to rely on camps or nannies, both of which can be very expensive, it is likely that you a little over two months of free time with your children ahead, and not much planned for how to survive it...."
Do you feel like you aren’t good enough, are too nervous or anxious to do something you want to do, are constantly comparing yourself to others, and putting yourself down? Is your mind flooded with negative thoughts when you look in the mirror or engage in self-reflection....."
Risa Simpson-Davis, LCSW, provides cognitive behavioral therapy for children, adolescents, adults, parents, couples, and families. Specialties include marriage counseling and relationship issues, divorce, parenting, depression, and anxiety. Other areas of interest include infidelity recovery counseling and coaching, women's issues, work/life balance, life transitions, adolescent and young adult issues, LGBT relationships, post-partum depression and adult ADHD in and around Chester, NJ.
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