30 Columbia Turnpike
Florham Park, NJ 07932
Serving areas in Essex County, including Livingston, Short Hills Floraham Park, Milburn, Maplewood, West Orange, East Hanover, Caldwell
“I hate you”
“You’re a mean mommy”
"You never get me anything"
"You just don’t understand”
“But Tommy’s Dad said it was ok to…”
If you’re a parent you’ve probably heard these words come out of your kids mouth once or twice!! You probably feel hurt, disrespected, and unappreciated. You love your kids, you only want the best for them and you try so hard to be a good parent. But sometimes your kids push your buttons one too many times and you’re at your wits end.
I know it’s really hard to….
…respond calmly when all you feel like doing is cursing and screaming.
…set limits and discipline your kids without feeling guilty
…be patient when the kids nag, whine and complain
As rewarding as parenting is, it’s the hardest job in the world. When your child comes into this world there is no instruction manual on how to raise happy, healthy and responsible kids. You learn by trial and error and yet sometimes you feel nothing seems to work no matter what you do.
I know this because I’ve been there. I raised a 25 year old son and now I’m applying what I learned along the way to my 12 year old son.
I would like to help you by sharing what I learned both personally and professionally.
I know what it’s like to be stressed out or emotionally drained from your day to give your kids the time and energy they deserve. I know what it’s like to give in to Tommy or Jane because you just can’t take listening to them cry anymore. I also know how hard it is to say “no” because you fear your child will hate you.
One of my favorite quotes is “If you always do what you have always done, then you will always get what you always got”.
If you are not satisfied with what you are doing or getting then it’s time for a change.
Working with me on a concept I have developed called S.C.A.R.tm -- Stop Cursing and Relax -- you will learn how to:
· Regulate your emotions and teach your kids how to do this too
· Avoid power struggles and screaming matches
· Talk to your kids so they will listen are respect you
· Teach problem solving skills and self-soothing strategies
· Understand what your kids really need and want from you
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Risa Simpson-Davis, LCSW, provides cognitive behavioral therapy for children, adolescents, adults, parents, couples, and families. Specialties include marriage counseling and relationship issues, divorce, parenting, depression, and anxiety. Other areas of interest include infidelity recovery counseling and coaching, women's issues, work/life balance, life transitions, adolescent and young adult issues, LGBT relationships, post-partum depression and adult ADHD in and around Chester, NJ.