Therapy in Chester and all of NJ
Have you and your husband/wife/partner drifted apart?
Arguing more, unable compromise or communicate well?
Feeling unloved, unappreciated or resentful?
Romance or intimacy gone?
Devastated by your partners infidelity?
It’s distressing and disorienting when a marriage or relationship begins to unravel. When children are involved it gets even worse, real panic or anxiety can start to take over your daily life.
No matter the reason for things going wrong, you might be feeling deeply hurt, unprepared, shocked. You may even be feeling betrayed, desperate or ready to give up on the marriage or relationship.
Or perhaps your relationship isn’t in crisis at all and you just need a “tune-up” to help get it back on track before it gets worse.
I want you to know that it is completely normal to feel…
- disappointed that your relationship feels different than it did
- confused about what is happening
- scared about what comes next
- terrified about the possibility of being alone
- profoundly hurt or sad about possibly losing someone you’ve loved
Meeting With My Spouse
If you’re a married couple with children under the age of 18 you might be feeling that the honeymoon period is long gone. Before kids, the focus had been on your partner and your love for one another. Although expanding your family is a wonderful thing, life after the honeymoon and births of your children can very easily become a monotonous routine. Your head is constantly spinning with thoughts of play dates, doctor appointments, work, homework, back to school night, cooking meals, never ending bills and financial planning, the list could go on forever. Not only has the romance dwindled but you barely have time to say good morning to each other anymore. Family dynamics change when kids are in the picture, and it could feel like the roles of Mom and Dad are taking over your life, and taking away from being Mr. and Mrs.
Is Your Partner Having a Midlife Crisis?
Did your 50-year-old partner buy an expensive sports car, attend a music festival with 20 something-year-olds or start shopping for clothes where your teenager shops? Maybe your partner started going to bars and coming home late at night with a shirt smelling like perfume? You're baffled at the sudden change of behavior and wonder what's going on. Perhaps your partner is going through a midlife crisis!
How To Reconnect With your Spouse
You spent more time with your spouse this past year than ever before. You may love each other but let's face it spending 24 hours a day together may have wreaked havoc on your marriage. Pandemic stress, the pressures of working from home, school closures, and isolation may have impacted your relationship. Being in the same space as your spouse for all this time may have caused you to lash out with one another or have caused you to say things you highly regret. Boundaries may have been crossed while finding ways to live and even parent your children. Tension is most likely running high. Spending day after day in the same house can even make devoted couples stir crazy.
Prioritize Your Marriage
Once you have children, the way that you define yourself changes. While you likely have several characteristics that you could use to describe yourself, the one that you most likely name first or feel is the most defining is, parent. If you first and foremost describe yourself as a parent, you are probably a very loving, selfless and dedicated mother or father.
Affairs: Breaking or Remaking a Marital Relationship
Joe, a 52 year old business executive has been coming home late from work the past couple of weeks, sometimes forgetting to tell his 50 year old wife Jodi that he won't be home for dinner. He told her that he has new clients in town and that he needs to entertain them. What he didn't tell her was that his "client" Sue is a 35 year old blonde bombshell. Jodi never suspected anything because there was no reason to. He has always been faithful to her and she never had a doubt in her mind that he would cheat until last night.
But you don’t have to go through this alone.
I can help you reach a place where you know you’ll survive, even though right now it may not feel like you won't.
If you are determined to understand what happened, and to repair what’s possible to be fixed; I’ll be with you every step of the way. If you think it’s time to move on or even if you’re unsure, I’ll help you make the best choices for yourself and your kids.
Maybe you’ve been through a split already, and you’re having trouble picking up the pieces and recreating a new life. Family and friends have tried to help but that hasn’t brought you what you wanted.
Is co-parenting an issue? I can help you and your ex communicate more effectively for the sake of your children.
How do I know all this? It’s because I have personally “walked the talk.” I also have the professional background and skills to help your get through this difficult time in your life. I did it and you can too. Let me show you how.
Make-up or break-up?
It’s hard to decide, and that’s why you need
experienced, well trained help.
Risa Simpson-Davis, LCSW
for an appointment this week